The Hidden Side of Luxury
A few years ago, Ron and I went on a vacation to Hawaii. We stayed at a so-so place on the rainiest part of the island. One afternoon, we went to visit some friends who had booked a suite at a luxurious resort on the sunny part of the island. They were older than us and didn't have kids. At the time, I was ambivalent about motherhood, and I remember I tried to convince Ron that we shouldn't have kids so that in a few years we could do cool stuff like stay at fancy hotels, instead of spending our days changing diapers. Hopefully this won't be the case, but if we don't/can't have kids in the next year or so, I suppose we'll go to Hawaii and stay at a luxury resort. I'm sure it will be nice and all, but I realize now that some couples who stay there might be struggling to appreciate it as best they can while carrying around an ache inside their soul.
posted by Jenny at 8:38 PM
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This kind of reminds me about that scene in When Harry Met Sally (I'm dating myself here) where she was telling Harry that she'd been okay with not getting married to her boyfriend because they wouldn't be able to have sex on the kitchen floor if they kids, etc. Then she realizes they never had sex on the kitchen floor anyway...it was a very cold Mexican tile. I hope you will be able to do both, some day. The Mexican tile and the kids. I'm hoping for you.
10:25 AM
Aw, thanks GOG!
I love that movie.
10:34 AM
Every Sunday when I go to Church I see what I call "Sunday Faces". Behind the smiles and the nice clothes all of us probably have a story to tell. More than I have ever been before (trust me that is probably a huge difference) I have become aware that most of us have some sort of pain that we aren't able to share. I like what you are doing in sharing some of pain. I think by sharing, at some levels we are able to "share" the pain. It never takes it away from the person that shared it, but it helps to feel better when you know that others understand and are thinking about you and praying for your comfort. That is after all what we were taught and shown to do through the scriptures and through Christ. I remind myself that blessings in my life far outweigh the pain. I am frustrated that I need to remind myself at all! I am grateful to you for sharing, allowing me to share and for all of those that read, may what ever pain they may have at this time, that they can find someone to share it with!
11:55 AM
That is the gift of heartache, great compassion.
8:08 AM
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